Something Light to Listen to

Music is an absolute essential in my life. I’m not sure I would function correctly without it. Today I’ve spent the day working on playlists on my Spotify, @ma10ia, you can find all of them there, but I decided to share part of my favorite playlist here with you all. Along with the songs, some pictures to emphasize the feeeeeelz. (pictures not mine)

screen-shot-2016-10-30-at-8-54-29-pmSomething Light(e):

Retrograde-James Blake

Not in That Way-Sam Smith

Eternal Sunshine-Jhene Aiko

Promises-Wiz Khalifa

Ribs-Lorde

Munny Right-Jon Bellion 

Coffee-Sylvan Esso

Don’t Wanna Be Your Girl-Wet 

I Need a Forest Fire-James Blake, Bon Iver

I Wanna Be Yours- Arctic Monkeys

Basic Instinct- The Acid 

Needed Me- Rihanna

screen-shot-2016-10-30-at-9-11-50-pmThese are some of my favorites, something about each of these songs just makes me feel comfortable and, glowy. I’m sure that doesn’t make sense to everyone, but if you’ve ever felt that way you know what I’m talking about. Music is my world and it brings me a joy that I can’t replace with anything. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

endless love,

matenia

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slowing down entry 1.

Life has been a little crazy lately. Days and nights blend into each other a lot. Saturdays turn into Tuesdays much quicker now.

I’ve been trying to slow down. Rainy, cloudy Saturdays work well for that. img_4722

Purple hair dye is one of those things that you don’t mind getting on a white T-shirt. It’s pretty.

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When in doubt, use some flash.

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I have a new found love of roses. I’m not sure what it is exactly, maybe just a phase, but even so, nothing wrong with some appreciation. (The tattoo isn’t mine, but it’s a beaut isn’t it?)

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I’ve been paying a lot more attention to lights lately. Much more than I ever did in Florida. Living in the city, buildings are taller, lights are brighter, and always on. I tend to spend sleepless nights staring out my window wondering what could be going on in the buildings all around me at 4:30 in the morning. Talk about never sleeping.

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I haven’t made a meal in a kitchen in 2 months. Takeout is great, don’t get me wrong, but there’s something I miss about cooking a meal. Makes me think of home much more.

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I’ve been trying to use less technology lately. I didn’t realize how difficult it would be.It has been easier to stop looking at it though. I try to pay more attention to my camera than my computer or phone. I still like capturing beautiful images, that makes me happiest.

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There’s something about looking out an 18th floor window and realizing there’s a whole world around me that brings me such a sense of peace.

Taking Care of Yourself.

In High School, I had one of the biggest realizations. I came to understand that I had no idea how to take care of myself. No, I’m not talking about taking myself to the doctor if I have a cold or remembering to take my medications in the morning. I’m talking about spiritual and mental health.

I find it so funny, in school we learned quadratic formulas, read lots of Shakespeare, and could even hold conversations in other languages, but no one seemed to understand the necessity of teaching us how to love and care for ourselves.

I woke up most mornings feeling like shit and not wanting to do anything because I was unhappy. While I struggle with depression and anxiety, this was a completely separate issue. This was about my thoughts and how much criticism I inflicted on myself.

As a teen one of the biggest factors in self-perception is the media. The media is constantly feeding us unattainable/ unrealistic garbage in the form of photoshopped clothing ads or “tips and tricks on how to skinnier, prettier, more muscular, etc, etc”. What it’s not advertising very much is how to love who you are or how to maintain happiness in times of grief or trouble.

Once I came to this realization it opened my mind up to a completely new idea of how important my happiness is. So I did lots and lots of research, but came to realize that without practice, any research is completely useless. I’ve come up with a few practices and ideas that help me relax, unwind, and settle into a happier place.

  1. Slow Down. 

This is probably one of the most important things you can do for your body and mind. For a long time I found myself going and going, constantly making plans with people for fear of “missing out”. When I started having nights in with a book, or a movie, or even just some music and my notebook, I could focus so much more and was generally much calmer. While there’s nothing wrong with going out with friends, think about the reason you’re doing it. Don’t see it as some sort of obligation. You don’t owe anyone anything. You are the most important person in your life.

2) Meditation.

I know this sounds so cliche, but it has been one of the BIGGEST ways for me to establish  spiritual and physical well-being. Meditation is by far one of the greatest practices, and in my opinion the most important. It allows you to separate yourself from the world around you, not just people.

3) Yoga.

While I know this may not work for everyone, yoga is one of my favorite things to do. I’ve found a great yoga studio in East Village called, Yoga to the People. However, you don’t need to go to a studio to do yoga. Theres plenty of videos online that teach you and its fairly easy to get the basics down. If I’m doing yoga at home (which is not often because I live in a dorm with two other people and we don’t exactly have a plethora of space), I like to combine it with my meditation. It’s an extremely relaxing experience and afterword it literally feels like you got a full body massage and took a great nap.

4) Talk to your friends and family.

I can’t stress the importance of having a support system. My friends and family are the most important people in my life. They’re the people I call when I get a bad grade, embarrassed myself in front of someone I like, or I’m just feeling down. I have learned to love who I am by surrounding myself with people who desire or have achieved that goal.

5) Find something that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning.

Put your motive and drive into passions not specific people. It doesn’t have to be a commitment to something for the rest of your life. One day it could be poetry, the next it could be martial arts. Not being committed to one single hobby or cause is 100% okay! But finding something that brings you joy or literally just gives you the motivation to roll out of bed in the morning is the most important thing you can do for yourself.

These are five very simple things I try to incorporate into my daily life. Is every day perfect? Absolutely not. Do I do all of these things every day? Nope! Sometimes life does get in the way, but it is very important to be mindful of those times as well.

Lots of love,

Matenia