What Patti Smith Taught me About Love.

**This post is not simply about one topic, it’s a little all over the place, but read I recommend reading  it anyway :)**

When I picked up a copy of “Just Kids”, I had no idea of the journey I would embark on. When I was younger, I always had this vision of what moving to New York and drowning myself in art would look like. I envisioned tiny apartments filled with people, paint covered sheets, rolls of film sprawled out on every open space. When I opened Patti Smith’s novel, I saw my own dreams sprawled on this pages. While it wasn’t all beautiful or happy, it was all real. It was authentic and I think that’s what I’ve been missing.

At this point in time I had a pretty bleak view on love. I think everyone goes through this at some point. Something happens and you swear up and down that love is fake or a myth. It’s not because you want to be cynical, it’s because you’re scared. To love someone is to be vulnerable and no one really likes being vulnerable.  You build walls around you as a way to protect yourself.

I really wanted to, but I didn’t  know if I believed in love (which is something I wouldn’t typically reveal because some would think it was strange). I remember reading about how Patti and  Robert Mapplethorpe met and how their relationship blossomed. There is nothing more beautiful than being introduced to someone by the person who loves them. I learned all about their escapades in Washington Square park or the fact that they exchanged art for housing at the Chelsea Hotel. I learned about their travels, together and separate. And how they both managed to live through their art no matter their financial situation or relationship status. I clung to their conversations, I underlined, highlighted, annotated, I scribbled in the margins, I fell in love.

I fell in love with their love and that was when I realized authenticity and love go hand in hand. Without authenticity, love is simply an illusion. It lacks a certain substance. Without love, life is dull–boring even. This realization has helped me to understand what is really important in my daily life and what I desire for the future. Because after all, life is about growth, complacency is dangerous.


This was a short post, I know, but there a few things I’d like to encourage you to do.

  1. Find something that you love and make it a point to do it everyday.
    This could be writing, working out, running, taking pictures, drawing, anything in the world. Find what makes you happy. Hold on to that.
  2. Surround yourself with people who make you happy.
    I’m not going to go into detail, but this is very self-explanatory. Surround yourself with good people, who care about you. Who encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Tell them you love and appreciate them often.
  3. Love yourself, Love others, Be Kind.
    In the words of Yoko Ono, “Remember love. Remember our hearts are one. Even when we are fighting with each other, our hearts are beating in unison. I love you.”

Thank you for reading this rather messy blog post. Also, thank you to Patti Smith for being incredible and inspiring.(even though she’ll never read this)

All my love,